Nostalgia.
A Komment About Kink
There is nothing more ridiculous than one person getting all sniffy and censorious about anothers sexual preferences but it happens all the time. It’s been the same throughout history and not just at a personal level either. Governments have regularly legislated to control and criminalize aspects of private sexuality.
If you strip away all of the nonsense and think about it, though, the whole thing is really very simple. Orgasms rock. We all like them. They’re natures way of ensuring the survival of the species. If not for orgasms, people would have given up on sex millenia ago and done something far less silly and squelchy instead.
So with sex everyone is aiming at exactly the same thing (an orgasm) regardless of how they choose to achieve it, right ? Whether they’re decorously devoted to the missionary position or like being tied up and briskly spanked with a stick of rhubarb is all supremely, utterly irrelevant. All roads lead to Rome.
Therefore it follows that, as long as its between consenting adults, no-one can ever credibly claim that their kind of sex is morally superior to anyone elses. While the concept of morality may enter into the circumstances of sex (e.g. don’t sleep with your best-friends partner) it has no possible relevance to the execution of sex.
Even people who are sane enough to accept the logic of this, though, sometimes balk at what society calls ‘kinks’ or fetishes. Certainly, with good will and an open mind, its possible to understand intellectually that someone derives great sexual pleasure from, say, spanking, but unless you actually have that ‘kink’ yourself its impossible to appreciate its visceral appeal. Even if you are happy to indulge a lovers particular ‘kink’ you never really ‘get it’ yourself unless you share it. Which is a good reason why birds of a feather tend to flock together.
Probably words like ‘kink’ and ‘fetish’, which I’ve used simply because they’re familiar, just serve to perpetuate societies illogical mindset. They imply a ‘deviation’ away from some arbitrary and imaginary ‘norm’. Really, to my mind, everything sexual that happens consensually between two adults is ‘normal’ and whats really abnormal is that people still get so hung-up and judgmental over the whole issue.
My kind of sex is okay but yours is wrong/immoral/perverted etc ? How could anyone ever take seriously a notion so mind-bogglingly arrogant and illogical ? Having said that, of course, please keep your distance with that zucchini .. I mean .. *gulp* .. one has to draw the line somewhere, doesn’t one ? .:))
